DEAR UNDERVALUED: While your wife may have apologized for these recent instances, it’s clear there’s been a pattern of disrespect and disregard that you’ve had to endure over the entirety of your marriage, especially combined with her family’s racist remarks toward you over the years. You have every right to feel hurt and frustrated.

However, I harbor some resentment toward my wife because she didn’t value my sacrifices at the end of my career. Lots of my friends who retired with me were recognized properly by their wives and immediate family with gatherings and get-togethers to celebrate such a once-in-a-lifetime event.

My relationship with my daughters is exceptional. However, I harbor some resentment toward my wife because she didn’t value my sacrifices at the end of my career. Lots of my friends who retired with me were recognized properly by their wives and immediate family with gatherings and get-togethers to celebrate such a once-in-a-lifetime event.